Grief and loss

Grieving is the price we pay for having the courage to love others.
(Irvin D. Yalom)

When people talk about grief, they often mean mourning after the death of a loved one or pet. But one encounters the phenomenon of grief much more often in life than one first thinks. Because grief reaction occurs after almost every loss experience of something that was important in life. Thus one can grieve over the broken love relationship or friendship, over loss of the job, over the move into a new area or also over the loss of the favorite cuddly animal for small children.

The grief reaction is quite normal and is part of life. Giving grief time and space instead of repressing it has a positive effect on the coping process. Some profound experiences of loss leave lifelong traces. Life goes on, but it becomes different. After a death, a separation, or the breakup of a friendship, one has to get used to the new everyday life. To an everyday life, in which an important person is missing. A person or animal that meant a lot to you, with whom you spent a lot of time, shared your worries and many beautiful moments. You feel completely at the mercy of the new situation and helpless. In some situations, everyday life has to be completely restructured and you quickly feel overwhelmed. Fears about the future may accompany the mourner for a while.

The grieving process takes place in phases. The best known of these are: Shock; not wanting to admit; regression accompanied by crying fits, breakdowns and bewilderment; guilt; anger; withdrawal and acceptance. It often happens that initially one suffers from loss of appetite and has insomnia. Some people manage to go through the mourning process by themselves or with the support of the close environment. Some do not manage it and fall into the state of so-called pathological mourning. In such cases, it is recommended to seek help in order to avoid serious complications later on. Unprocessed experiences of loss (through separation or death) are one of the most common causes of depression.

I will be glad to support you in processing your loss and accompany you through the mourning process. In my work with people who are grieving, I use methods from grief and crisis counseling, trauma therapy, and mindfulness-based methods.