Support for parents in the separation phase
Have you decided to separate with a heavy heart? Perhaps you tried a lot - talking, compromising, spending time together - and yet at some point it was clear that you couldn't go on? Not as a couple. And yet something connects you forever: your children.
Especially when children are involved, a separation is not simply a line drawn in the sand. There are many unanswered questions, hurt feelings, perhaps even unspoken things that stand between you. And in the middle of it all: the children. You don't want them to become a pawn in your conflicts, and yet it's so difficult to maintain a clear stance in times of pain or even to find a friendly way of dealing with each other?
If you recognize yourself here, then my separation counseling can help you as parents. It is aimed at couples who can no longer continue as partners but want to find a good path forward together as parents.
Together, we create a space in which the most important things can be said without escalating. A space in which you can develop concrete strategies on how you as parents can remain present and reliable for your children.
During counseling:
- we clarify how you talk to your children about the separation: in an age-appropriate, honest and loving way;
- we develop a way of dealing with each other in which your children do not have to stand between you;
- we find fair and suitable arrangements for you regarding care and times;
- we develop communication strategies with which you can also discuss difficult topics: without accusations, without old patterns.
The aim is to find peace—within yourself and with each other—and to create a stable, loving environment for your children in which they can continue to experience both parents. Because even if you are no longer a couple, you will remain parents for life.
To get to know you and gain an initial understanding of your situation. This allows me to prepare the counseling individually.
This first session is deliberately longer in order to create space for the most pressing issues of the first separation phase:
- What else needs to be said so that you can move on emotionally?
- How do we tell the children?
- What initial contact arrangements do we need?
- How do we want our communication to be now and in the future?
The content always depends on your individual situation.
At intervals of approx. 4 weeks, together or individually as required. Here we address current challenges, deepen agreements or work on emotional tensions that arise.
