You argue: often, heatedly, and afterward things are even worse than before. Or you barely speak to each other anymore, because every conversation somehow ends the way it shouldn't. One of you feels unheard. The other withdraws. Day-to-day life goes on, but the connection is missing.
Many couples who come to me for couples therapy in Munich are actually looking for the same thing. But they just can’t seem to find their way back to each other. Some are on the verge of giving up. Some have just gone through a breach of trust. Almost all of them have already tried many things.
I'll help you understand what's really going on and work with you to decide where the journey will take us.
Save the date: We also offer appointments in the evenings and on Saturdays. Because building strong relationships isn't limited to office hours.
What to expect at your orientation meeting
The first session is not a trial session. It's the start of the actual work. Over the course of about 90 minutes, we’ll take a look at your relationship history together: What happened? Where are you right now? What do you want to change?
Afterward, you will each receive a detailed questionnaire. Based on your answers, I will create a personalized treatment plan that addresses the issues that are truly relevant, in a logical order.
Sometimes a single session is enough if you come with a specific issue that we can address together. Afterward, you decide whether and how to proceed, regardless of whether you were looking for couples therapy, couples counseling, or marriage counseling.
My approach: The Gottman Method in simple terms
In this video, I briefly explain the scientifically based Gottman method of couples therapy.
Frequently asked questions (FAQ) about Couples Therapy
My practice, Die lila Couch, is centrally located at Morassistraße 18 in Munich-Isarvorstadt, right next to Isartor. It is easily accessible by S-Bahn (Stammstrecke), U-Bahn, or tram. Drivers can easily find a parking space in the nearby Isarparkhaus car park. The quiet location in the backyard offers the discreet and protected setting that confidential couples counseling requires.
Every relationship crisis has its own story. In my Munich practice, I often find that the longer a conflict has been going on, the more time we should give ourselves. A good rule of thumb for couples is 10 to 12 sessions. However, for specific problems, intensive, shorter therapy can already resolve the crucial issue. Since I plan my appointments in Munich efficiently, we can work together to find a rhythm that fits into your everyday (family) life.
Couples therapy at my practice in Munich-Isarvorstadt always begins with a detailed case history. During the initial consultation, you will receive a detailed questionnaire, which I will use to create a therapy plan tailored to your needs.
In couples therapy, we uncover destructive behavior and communication patterns and work together to develop ways for you to break these patterns and learn new behaviors.
The real changes happen between sessions, when you implement what we have discussed in your everyday life at home. I see my role as showing you this path and dividing the journey to a satisfying relationship into small, achievable steps.
This is one of the most common concerns I hear in my practice. Many couples wonder whether the changes they learn here can really last if both partners are not equally motivated at the beginning.
These concerns are completely understandable. It is important to know that every change begins with small, conscious steps. It is completely normal that your new behaviors and communication patterns have not yet become habitual at the beginning. The crucial point is that you are practicing them at all. That is already a great sign of trust and a first success!
Please don't let concerns about the authenticity of motivation cast suspicion on every little bit of progress. Because that is exactly what can slow down positive momentum before it really gets going.
My job as a therapist is to help you build a foundation of trust and hope. Together, we will find out what really motivates each of you and how you can make this visible to each other.
Trust in your partner's motivation and your shared ability to reshape your relationship is the most important foundation. I will give you the tools you need to recognize and celebrate every bit of progress, no matter how small. This will turn a conscious “Yes, I'll go along with it” into a heartfelt “Yes, we can do this together.”
This concern is entirely justified and very understandable. Many couples fear that what they have learned in everyday life will be forgotten again as soon as the situation has eased.
There are no guarantees in a relationship, but there is trust, motivation, and above all: knowledge is power.
The strategies you learn in couples therapy are not theoretical exercises, but tools that you consciously apply. When you notice in everyday life that the new behaviors are working and you can resolve conflicts more calmly, it will become easier and easier for you to follow these paths.
Think of it like a sport: you might stop training for a while, but when you feel yourself getting out of shape, you know exactly how to get back on track. It's the same with what you learn here. When you notice that your relationship is going through a difficult phase again, you have the knowledge and experience to fall back on what you've learned. You will then know exactly how to talk to each other and support each other.
My goal is to empower you so that you can confidently take responsibility for your relationship. Therapy is the start, but real change depends on your trust and your shared motivation to continue using these tools in the future.
That's a concern I can understand. At first, everything we learn here often feels artificial. It simply takes time for new behaviors to become habitual and feel completely normal.
What seems “normal” to you now is, unfortunately, what led you to me. It is the destructive relationship patterns that have become so deeply ingrained that they run unconsciously.
Everything new that you bring to your communication and your interactions with each other may seem artificial at first—but that is completely natural. Don't be afraid of it; instead, have faith in the process.
They say it takes about 90 days to establish a new habit. If you apply what we are working on here regularly and consciously in your everyday life, the artificial will eventually become your new normal. You will find your own ways, but the basic principles you learn here will always guide you. And when it no longer feels artificial, you'll know you're on the right track.